Let’s talk about failure


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I am the kind of person that doesn’t like to dwell on the negative. I would rather distract myself to the point, I forget why I am upset or sad. This is not the best way to get through challenges, I know but you gotta do what you gotta do to keep pushing. To say 2020 has been a difficult year would be the greatest understatement. Everyone is feeling the strain of this year from their personal lives as well as collectively. To put it simply, we are really going through it. That’s why I want to talk about failure and my relationship with failing. 

This year started off with me about to get a promotion and be in a role that most people my age would not be in. Due to COVID and numerous reasons out of my control it never happened. After that, I went into robot mode and worked on freelancing while applying for full-time employment. Now, I have found another role and things are starting to turn around. Although, I didn’t take time to be angry or sad. To be honest, I still haven't processed what this year has thrown at us and how it makes me feel. One lesson I have learned after college is when it comes to jobs, workers are seen as disposable. Some people do care and want the best for their employees but not at the cost of their business. The company always comes first and everything else is secondary. It is painful but that is the reality. 

“Fall down 7 times, get up 8” 
We have all heard this expression and I believe it is a great way to think to keep going. Although, no one talks about the 7 times you are on the floor. The moments you can’t get up and don’t have the strength or the tools to get back up. I have been in this situation more times than I would like to count. When both your mental and physical tanks are drained. It can be very discouraging to try, try and try again with no sign of a positive outcome. What gets me through these difficult times are the supportive people in my life and remembering the things that bring me joy. As simple as it sounds, that's what keeps me pushing. The times I have been down, I only got up because there was a helping hand. I didn't do it on my own. No one should have to do it on their own. I hate asking for help because I feel like I am being a burden but that is the only way to succeed. No one gains success based solely on their own merits. It is through support and being pointed in the right direction. As difficult as it is to go through, I believe that everyone needs to fail. It is the best way to grow and use what we learn to help others. 

How do you handle failure?

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